Okay so last week we were talking about good vibrations right? Are you on your way to raising yours? Need some more help?
That’s right hugs. When was the last time you had a really good hug?
Can’t remember? Why?
Are you getting enough hugs in your life? Hugs are quite profound and nurturing. Something magical happens when two people hug, regardless of whether they have newly met or are old friends. It’s true, and it is scientifically proven too. (I love that science backs up my woo woo stuff)
Now, did you know that our bodies have over 2 square meters (or 22 square feet) of skin on the body? That’s enough to fill in a doorway!! Wow. And skin loves to feel skin.
And did you know that there is a biomagnetic field around your body? It’s true. It’s a fact; around everyone’s body is its own magnetic field. Okay, so these fields are extremely weak and can only be detected using some super sensitive equipment that blocks out all external magnetic fields, including the Earth’s magnetic fields, but it is there. And when two bodies merge through a hug, the energy is lifted up. That’s when we then become more energised, more awake, more alive, and we feel safer. That’s why we love hugs.
But. And there is always a but.
There are ways to hug, and ways not to hug. Well you can still hug that way, but it’s really of no nurturing benefit. Let me give you some tips.
The best hug, the good and nurturing hug, is one which has been mutually agreed upon and where both parties have full contact from neck to waist. Full contact, but relaxed and gentle, loving even. And it may feel a little odd (because it is normally the opposite side) , but hug left ear to left ear – our hearts overlap, and our energy is great.
The Side Hug or let’s pose for the camera type hug is a familiar, friendly gesture, and is often used in a group setting. Hugging this way shows a single front, heads inclined towards each other, and if it’s reciprocal shows great rapport between the participants. Not very nurturing, but still is uplifting because you’re all friends together. Group hugs can do the same – just make sure there is no-one being squeezed tightly in the middle.
From behind hug is where one person will approach and hug their partner from behind encircling them. It shows deep connection and caring – which can be especially comforting if your partner is feeling a little down. It can also be a protective and territorial signal, one partner tries subconsciously to protect so the other partner feels safe and guarded.
There are a few hugs that really don’t do much at all.
The A frame hug – when two people lean together like an A-Frame. Their necks are all about that touch. Not very nurturing – may as well just shake hands.
The quick half a chest hug – my should touches yours. Whoop de doo. I notice a lot of young men do this along with a slap on the back – macho, bro hug, I’m not really into this whole hug thing type ok? Funny to watch.
The hug accompanied with patting. OMG. You are not burping a baby – so don’t expect that your huggee (if that’s a word) is going to feel great, all they may do is burp in your ear (hehe, that’s what I do to my kids if they try that one on me).
The lift and twirl hug. Oh I hate this one. I am not a very tall person, some would call me petite (I just call myself short), but what I hate most of all (and I do not like to use the word hate often), but I HATE it when someone – usually a tall man, thinks it’s great to hug me, pick me up and twirl me around like I’m a rag doll. That is just a sign of dominance – look I’m bigger and stronger than you. So if you’re tall don’t do it. Just bend your knees and hug nicely. Now it’s a different case if you run at someone in excitement, jump into their arms and fling yourself around – that is an excitement hug. And so long as its reciprocal (and you haven’t knocked the other person over) it’s a wonderful, happy hug.
The chiropractic hug is great if you’re looking for some free chiropractic adjustment, but a big squeeze is not very warm and nurturing. It can knock the wind out of your sails, and leave you feeling deflated.
And the worst one I’ve ever had to put up with is the bump and grind hug. It’s okay if it’s my partner, and we’re fooling around – but when someone comes in really tight and close and grinds their hips into me, that right there is sexual assault!
Okay so that’s just a few types of hugs. I’m sure there are many more, but you get my gist.
The caring nurturing hugs are the ones we want. The ones we need. Hugging is great for your health, easy to do, and free. Hugs have low energy consumption, but high energy yield. They are non-fattening, organic, sugar free – and naturally sweet, and 100% wholesome.
The sad fact, unfortunately, is that some people have skin hunger – they haven’t been touched for a such a long time, that they are hungry for hugging. So to help raise your vibration and the vibration of others, find someone that needs a hug and hug them. Anywhere. Anytime (just make sure it is consensual) and spread the joy. Spread the happiness.