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The Thief of Joy

 

COMPARISON is the thief of joy !!!

Heard this the other day, and it reminded me.

We are all different. We all have different journeys. We set goals, and work our way towards them. Some of us get there quicker, and easier than others – or so it seems. Some of us take our time, and still get there in the end. What we must remember is we each have our own journey to reach our own goals.

I am the first to admit, although I try not to, I most certainly do look at others and think WHY CAN”T I?? If she’s so successful, why can’t I be? If she can run so fast why can’t I? She’s a great parent, how come I’m not? Then I do stop, tell those monkey voices in my head to just shut the …. up, and look at how great I really am. I’m successful in my own right. I can run as fast as I want to (I’m not running anyone else’s race). My kids love and respect me.

We honestly need to stop looking at others and comparing ourselves, and stop consistently asking ourselves if they can do it, how come I can’t? We all can, we have to do it in our own way, in our own time. And enjoy the journey. Appreciate what you are doing for yourself. Love what you are doing for yourself. And keep doing it. You will get there!

 

Need a helping hand to get there, then contact me.

 

Start kicking up your heels,

Sam

Stuck in a Rut?

are you stuck in a rut

Are you a Rut Dweller? I heard this term recently and it really made me think. Am I a rut dweller? I have my routines, sure, but does that make me a rut dweller. I don’t like to think so, so I thought I’d look into it more.

Routine doesn’t make you a rut dweller. Phew.

So after some digging, it has been shown that a rut dweller is someone who is not moving forward in their life, and in order avoid feeling bad about themselves they lower their standards just a little bit more. They are also a master of distraction. They love to watch sports and reality TV because they can then live vicariously through the stars. Now I’m not suggesting that every person who sits and watches sport is a rut dweller (I mean I like to watch the odd grand final, or car race)– but it gets you thinking doesn’t it. Are you sitting down to watch TV, rather than taking the time to sit down and reflect and examine your life because you don’t want to experience that hopeless feeling?

Do you know that life could be better? But don’t do anything to change things? A rut dweller looks at people who are achieving and says, “I could have done that.” But didn’t.  They’ll also say things such as, “I should be out there, I should be doing this…I should, I would, I could.” But never really does it; they just should, should, should. (That word  ‘should’  should 😉 be removed from our vocabulary – but that’s another blog 😊 ) A rut dweller doesn’t make excuses for themselves, though, or blame others for their ‘failings’; they resign themselves to the fact (well, it’s fact to them) that this is just how things are and then go back to checking the TV guide.

And would you like to know the saddest thing about a rut dweller? The first time they hit a wall or run into some sort of obstacle, they quit! As soon as they become overwhelmed or frightened, they stop; they quit. There’s no blame though; they don’t blame other people or circumstances; they just quit. And you know what they say about quitters? I’ll remind you. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. So, in effect, a rut dweller is not a winner – but you knew that didn’t you?

Does any of this resonate with you? I mean all of us, at some stage or another, has found themselves in a rut. It’s just who you are that determines how long you stay there. For some it is a short time, others a bit longer, and for some unfortunately it is the life they have chosen.

If you do not like the life you have chosen, or the rut you are dwelling in, I have a few suggestions to help you climb your way out.

  1. Firstly, and importantly understand that a rut is not a permanent place, it’s a temporary one. It’s just a small obstacle in your overall journey of life. If you take this view of your circumstance, you’ll be much more motivated to make the effort to get yourself back on track.
  2. Learn to grow; upgrade yourself and your thinking. Go to a seminar, read a new book – try a different genre form the one you usually read, read inspiring books – autobiographies are great or try a new hobby -something simple to start with. You might just learn a new skill, and meet new people.
  3. Literally take a new route to work – or maybe on the way home (you do not want to get lost on the way to work).
  4. Try a new coffee shop, or a new restaurant.
  5. Take some time, reflect, and think of one action you could do that would improve your life. Even by just a little. (And I am not talking – win the lottery!) What is an action you can do? Write it down, and commit to doing it!
  6. Raise your standards and take small steps towards improving yourself. As John Bytheway has been credited for saying “Inch by inch anything’s a cinch. But by the yard, it’s hard.” Little by little is the way to start. You do not want to overwhelm yourself at the get go.
  7. Find the courage to get back into the game of life. Be brave and put yourself out there and see what can happen. Look, you won’t know how things will work out, but until you try and if you keep putting those universal laws to work for you, you will succeed.
  8. Gather people around you who will help you achieve your goals (or the small steps you have chosen) and steer clear of those who will hinder you. Always surround yourself with others that are moving.

We have often heard the definition of insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting it to come out differently. I’m more inclined to say it doesn’t even need the ending of expecting it to come out differently. Just doing the same thing over and over again, and staying in a rut, that is (to me) the definition of insanity. Live your life. Get up. Climb out. Be a rut dweller no longer! Be happy to move onwards and upwards! Now if you need help with this, contact me – I can help.

Okay, I’ll finish now and leave you with a thought by a great man. “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ― Albert Einstein

Think on it!

Start kicking up your heels!

Sam
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Hug me Right – oops… Left

group hug

Okay so last week we were talking about good vibrations right? Are you on your way to raising yours? Need some more help?

Hugs.

That’s right hugs. When was the last time you had a really good hug?

Today? Great!

Yesterday? Okay.

Can’t remember? Why?

Are you getting enough hugs in your life? Hugs are quite profound and nurturing. Something magical happens when two people hug, regardless of whether they have newly met or are old friends.  It’s true, and it is scientifically proven too. (I love that science backs up my woo woo stuff)

Now, did you know that our bodies have over 2 square meters (or 22 square feet) of skin on the body? That’s enough to fill in a doorway!! Wow. And skin loves to feel skin.

And did you know that there is a biomagnetic field around your body? It’s true. It’s a fact; around everyone’s body is its own magnetic field. Okay, so these fields are extremely weak and can only be detected using some super sensitive equipment that blocks out all external magnetic fields, including the Earth’s magnetic fields, but it is there. And when two bodies merge through a hug, the energy is lifted up. That’s when we then become more energised, more awake, more alive, and we feel safer. That’s why we love hugs.

But. And there is always a but.

There are ways to hug, and ways not to hug. Well you can still hug that way, but it’s really of no nurturing benefit. Let me give you some tips.

The best hug, the good and nurturing hug, is one which has been mutually agreed upon and where both parties have full contact from neck to waist. Full contact, but relaxed and gentle, loving even. And it may feel a little odd (because it is normally the opposite side) , but hug left ear to left ear – our hearts overlap, and our energy is great.

The Side Hug or let’s pose for the camera type hug is a familiar, friendly gesture, and is often used in a group setting. Hugging this way shows a single front, heads inclined towards each other, and if it’s reciprocal shows great rapport between the participants. Not very nurturing, but still is uplifting because you’re all friends together. Group hugs can do the same – just make sure there is no-one being squeezed tightly in the middle.

From behind hug is where one person will approach and hug their partner from behind encircling them. It shows deep connection and caring – which can be especially comforting if your partner is feeling a little down. It can also be a protective and territorial signal, one partner tries subconsciously to protect so the other partner feels safe and guarded.

There are a few hugs that really don’t do much at all.

The A frame hug – when two people lean together like an A-Frame. Their necks are all about that touch. Not very nurturing – may as well just shake hands.

The quick half a chest hug – my should touches yours. Whoop de doo. I notice a lot of young men do this along with a slap on the back – macho, bro hug, I’m not really into this whole hug thing type ok? Funny to watch.

The hug accompanied with patting. OMG. You are not burping a baby – so don’t expect that your huggee (if that’s a word) is going to feel great, all they may do is burp in your ear (hehe, that’s what I do to my kids if they try that one on me).

The lift and twirl hug. Oh I hate this one. I am not a very tall person, some would call me petite (I just call myself short), but what I hate most of all (and I do not like to use the word hate often), but I HATE it when someone – usually a tall man, thinks it’s great to hug me, pick me up and twirl me around like I’m a rag doll. That is just a sign of dominance – look I’m bigger and stronger than you. So if you’re tall don’t do it. Just bend your knees and hug nicely. Now it’s a different case if you run at someone in excitement, jump into their arms and fling yourself around – that is an excitement hug. And so long as its reciprocal (and you haven’t knocked the other person over) it’s a wonderful, happy hug.

The chiropractic hug is great if you’re looking for some free chiropractic adjustment, but a big squeeze is not very warm and nurturing. It can knock the wind out of your sails, and leave you feeling deflated.

And the worst one I’ve ever had to put up with is the bump and grind hug. It’s okay if it’s my partner, and we’re fooling around – but when someone comes in really tight and close and grinds their hips into me, that right there is sexual assault!

Okay so that’s just a few types of hugs. I’m sure there are many more, but you get my gist.

The caring nurturing hugs are the ones we want. The ones we need. Hugging is great for your health, easy to do, and free. Hugs have low energy consumption, but high energy yield. They are non-fattening, organic, sugar free – and naturally sweet, and 100% wholesome.

The sad fact, unfortunately, is that some people have skin hunger – they haven’t been touched for a such a long time, that they are hungry for hugging. So to help raise your vibration and the vibration of others, find someone that needs a hug and hug them. Anywhere. Anytime (just make sure it is consensual) and spread the joy. Spread the happiness.

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Sam
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